I’m disappointed. Now you know why.

by Lesley on May 12, 2009 · 10 comments

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Tomorrow our national news media will be covering an announcement of epic proportions. Will Carrie Prejean get to keep her crown as Miss California? 

Carrie has been making headlines for the last two weeks, ever since she publicly stated her view on marriage during the Miss Universe pageant. Carrie believes marriage should be between a man and a woman. Perez Hilton, the gay celebrity stalker who posed the question, did not agree (obviously).

Immediately after the pageant, controversy erupted. Conservative Christians applauded Prejean’s answer, quickly inviting her to speak at churches. Conservative talk radio praised her. Liberals like Perez made hateful, condescending statements. News leaked that Prejean had breast implants put in about six weeks before the pageant. The most recent faux pax? Four semi nude pictures online, taken while Prejean was in high school.

Donald Trump has reemerged as Mr. Ethics Expert. (Remember the last Miss Universe pageant when Trump gave Tara Conner a “second chance” for her drinking and drug problems?)  Today he is currently “reviewing” Prejean’s racy photos (a horribly tough job for him, I’m sure) in order to determine whether or not Prejean gets to keep her crown.

So, here are my thoughts, plain and simple: I’m disappointed.

I’m disappointed in a country that allows young girls to turn into young women who parade their bodies around on stage in skimpy bathing suits.

I’m disappointed that, in an event which is so steeped in sexuality, some would argue Perez Hilton’s question as inappropriate. The root of his question boils down to sexuality. If the pageant wasn’t all about women parading around in bikinis, I might think that question was not fit for such a forum. 

I’m disappointed that Hilton got upset when Prejean didn’t give the answer he wanted. What he’s taught future contestants it to just lie if they have an answer that judges might not like.

I’m disappointed that churches embraced Prejean so quickly after she gave her answer. A beauty queen, fake boobs or not, doesn’t belong in a church to preach about gay marriage. 

But ultimately, I’m disappointed in Prejean. While I know that no one is perfect–or close to it–I don’t know why Prejean would openly speak to churches about what’s sexually appropriate and inappropriate  in relationships when she has made several choices that, to me, show she isn’t following God’s design for modesty. 

What do you think?

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elensantua
elensantua

Hmmm. . . now i am getting my geography wrong. China is a neighbor but not really that close. Lesley, i am from the Philippines. And may Ms California move on with her life. And also i pray we be gifted with the right discernment when it comes to serious issues like morality.

Lesley
Lesley

Thank you Elensantua- I agree- she probably had NO CLUE what she was getting herself into! Wow, you live in Malaysia? Thanks for reading my blog. I think you must be my furthest reader. :)

elensantua
elensantua

Hey Lesley, am sorry. I must have taken the issue on a different angle. But it seems to me Ms California never meant to be a moral judge with all her released statements. Whew! Ms California might look for me in our 7,100 islands archipelago of a nation, for defending her this hard when she doesnt or wont even know me from the millions of dirt in our controversy and corruption laden country. But really i believe Ms. California is only defending herself and perhaps desperate for ideas hence she was blurting things in the hope of clearing herself out only to start another point of controversy everytime she opens her mouth. I think our nearest neighbor country, China, is right with its national adage, less talk, less mistake. With that, i end this exchange of idea between us. Thanks for your time.

Lesley
Lesley

Hello elensantu. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment. I too am thankful for living in a country where we are allowed freedom of speech and the right to our own opinion. I must remind you, my main point is not whether gay marriage should be allowed or not, but whether we should be embracing a beauty queen as California's moral judge. That being said, I hope that my blog is always a place where people of any race, age or sex, will feel respected.

elensantua
elensantua

My sympathy is with Ms. California. For telling her mind out, she gets bashed by people who dont share her opinion. Worst, they were digging into her past to hinder her to move forward after the night she shared her personal idea. Good that she had the crown even for a short while. I would like to pose this question to the die hard gays. Where did you ever hear that marriage is for same sex? Of course its only in this twisted era where people would laugh at anything standard or classic because we are suppose to embrace and compromise with all sectors of society freaks or normal so everyone can co-exist in peace and harmony with one another. But really, if marriage is for pro-creation, then it should be between a man and a woman. But if marriage is only for affirmation of your fantasy and an assumed gender, that you are finally a woman because a paper said so despite your prick hanging in between your legs, then it is a marriage born out of deception or marriage in a different light only the gays can understand. I hope people can also be soft on Ms. California. After all America is still the seat of democracy and that includes freedom of speech and the right to our own opinion.

Tawny
Tawny

You're so sweet! You were just considering the privacy of my blog? How thoughtful! No, my blog is open to anyone who finds it-- as long as you go to the new link: www.almostthirtyflirtyandthriving.blogspot.com.

Lesley
Lesley

Thanks everyone for such deep, varied thoughts on this issue. I love hearing different opinions, so I'm very grateful for all of yours. You are all such lovely, well spoken women. :) Tawny- I'd love to get your blog up but I thought since you changed it that it's password protected? Am I wrong on that? I think, what it comes down to for me on this issue, is that it *seems* like many non-Christians biggest peeve with Christians are the "hypocrites." Really, we're all hypocrites, right? There are so many things I say I believe, but then don't follow on a day to day basis. However, churches embracing Carrie as a very public speaker to me translates to: "We don't care if she flaunts her body quite publicly, as long as she's standing up against gay marriage." It's a mixed message that I have a hard time believing does more good than harm. Yes, I totally agree that God can use her, and I'm really proud of her for standing up for her beliefs, but I'd still much rather see one of your women up on the church stage. To me, you have a bit more to stand on. ;)

Tawny
Tawny

I'm disappointed that my blog did not make your list of links on the right :( More importantly, I think that the beauty queen did something that not many people are doing these days: standing up to the liberal media and entertainment industry. I realize that her racy photos revealed that she makes mistakes in her past, but what if those mistakes propelled her to never compromise again in the future, thus her "heroic" answer to Hilton? It is completely biased to be denied the crown based on her unfavorable answer and I believe that aspect should be reconsidered the next go around (if it was turned around and a judge voted her down on pro-gay answer, there would be outrage the opposite way!). And the beauty queen shouldn't be hailed as expert on christian sexuality-- she's certainly isn't in my book. But most of us would benefit by getting the larger picture of her life: not to compromise, even in the face of extreme opposition.

Alysun
Alysun

When Sarah Palin was running for vice president, I thought a lot about the idea of power and morals. I love Sarah Palin, as did most other conservatives, yet I do not support every area of her lifestyle (specifically being a full-time working mom of little children as well as having a troubled teen). Ironically it is the lifestyle choices that I don't agree with that put Sarah Palin in a position of influence. The same can be said for Miss California. The choice to be a pageant contestant is not one that I support because of the lack of modesty. But there she was, the center of attention, speaking her beliefs. As I struggle with the idea of influence and morality, I am drawn to characters in the Bible, clearly used by God in powerful ways, who did not live perfectly moral lives. I'm not saying I would want King David to speak at a marriage and family seminar, but still God used him. I believe that God can work through people, even non believers, in a positive way. Your post brought to light interesting thoughts. I appreciate that about your writing. I wish was able to attend Katie's wedding and meet you!

Anna
Anna

The Perez Hilton/Miss California interaction was painful to watch on live TV (yes, I did watch the whole pageant. In my defense I had to spend the whole night packing and I needed some light, mindless entertainment to keep me going) and it's been painful to see the ramifications unfold. I was disappointed that they had that question to begin with because there is obviously a politically correct answer. It was a highly polarizing question and everyone knew the answer Perez wanted to hear. I thought she did her best to answer the question politely while still affirming her own beliefs and not succumbing to the peer pressure (except she did say "in my country marriage is between in a man and a woman" - which was just an awkward misspeak). I don't think she should be speaking in churches - that's just ridiculous. I don't agree with beauty pageants either, but for me, that's a completely different issue than the one at hand - although I can totally see how it all ties together in one cluster of disappointment. The saddest thing to me is that the message being sent through this experience is that if you want to be accepted and loved you should give people what they want, rather than standing up for yourself. What a terrible, terrible message for young girls. It's sad to me that Miss California is now being ripped to pieces for standing up for something that the federal government, in large part, supports. The President of the United States hasn't event affirmed gay marriage. My goodness.... Alright, now I'm just rambling and angry. You're so right to be disappointed Lesley. I am as well. I wish that we could live in a country that affirmed women for who they are and what they believe it, rather than how sexy they look in a swimsuit and whether or not they can appropriately conform to the ideals of the popular culture.