I’m a Grey’s Anatomy fan. I got addicted last fall when I was unemployed. I think watching other people’s depressing, roller coaster lives made me feel better about my own. The problem is, I’m still watching it (and I really like it!) Usually I watch the show with girlfriends at my house, but this week Jonathan and I watched it together. After the show ended he said, “It doesn’t seem like one marriage on that show has ever worked out.” When I started thinking about it, I realized he’s right. Addison & Derrick, the Chief and his wife, Ava, George and Callie, Meredith’s parents and now Dr. Bailey. No marriage has lasted in the short three seasons I’ve been watching this show! What’s worse is that I think it’s a theme with many shows on ABC. Since Jonathan’s been so busy studying for finals, I watched several ABC shows this week that I’ve never seen before– Brothers & Sisters and Private Practice. On both shows, the main characters are divorced, cheating on one another, in counseling or gay. There is not one marriage that is working.
Fortunately, Grey’s Anatomy isn’t reality. Two weeks ago, my grandparents celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary! It is inspiring to me that in real life, my life, I have examples that prove staying together is worth it. Through five children, a demanding career as a dentist and several huge health scares, my grandparents know what it means to keep there vows. Thanks Amie and Do-daddy. I love you both.
Three years ago today, Jonathan asked me to be his bride under the big Christmas tree at Rockefeller Center. It was the most romantic, surprising and life changing moment in my life so far. But, that night is not our everyday fairy tale. Some days we fight, we argue, we get stressed over money, we are sick, we have car problems, we move to new places, we slug home from our days, we aren’t good people to each other. We choose to keep giving, and serving, and loving, and praying because it is what we promised to do when we made our vows two years ago. We’ve only made it two years so far but I plan to do everything in my power to break my grandparents record someday.
Sharon sent me an article today and I like this quote: “What helps marriages to endure is not the compatibility of the spouses or the delight they take in each other. After all, over time people do change, circumstances are different and the pressures of life are brought to bear. Not all age equally gracefully. What enables marriages to endure, and thrive, is the commitment of the spouses to the marriage itself. Most married couples will tell you, quite unsurprisingly, that they could never have imagined before hand the circumstances that they have faced over the years of the marriage. Keeping one’s promises and a willingness to sacrifice for the other are the foundations of marital and family stability.” (Father Raymond J. De Souza, National Post, Canada)