Kinda Tough Gettin’ Older

by Lesley on November 1, 2007 · 6 comments

in books,travel

“When I am with my female friends I feel my soul is being sunned.” -Dee Brestin

I had to post a few pictures from my weekend in Phoenix with Jenny, Lori, Erin, Anne and Amy because I had so much fun. Last fall we visited Jenny in New York and had a blast…but…decided that it was a lot of sightseeing and not a lot of catching up. So this year we thought, “Where is the least exciting place we can all meet up and do nothing?” And we decided, Phoenix. No, not really. Really we all found cheap flights there (thank you Southwest Airlines) and Anne’s family had a house we could use.

Weekend highlights:

  • Sitting alone at the airport waiting to get picked up and watching the mini-van roll up will all the girls honking and flailing their arms
  • Anne lifting her butt cheek and farting extremely loudly in Mimi’s as the waiter took her order
  • Getting dropped off the bed
  • Discussing the book we all read together, Wanting All the Right Things
  • Eating junk food and watching movies (I really liked A Mighty Heart. Angelina plays a great role and deserves a Best Actress nomination, at least!
  • Talking to Katie in Africa

So, more about the book we read. Wanting All the Right Things by Shirin Taber was the perfect read for our weekend mainly because the author includes pages of interesting conversation topics that were ideal for our place in life right now. For me, life as a grown up isn’t everything that I expected. I actually don’t really know what I expected which might be the problem. I spent so long only thinking about the next year of school that I never imagined what grown up life would be like. In reality, there are so many wonderful things: LOVE, marriage, a companion, life on our own and deep friendships. But I also find myself disillusioned a bit–missing family, feeling stretched at work, not making much money, wanting more money, feeling guilty for wanting more money, missing friends far away, having moments where I hate my hair and my clothes, desiring to know God deeper and just not getting there, trying to be perfect by cleaning my house compulsively to make me feel like life is in order… you know… the stuff we all struggle with at different times but hate admitting that we do. Phew. Happy to get that off my chest.

I realized while sitting outside with my girlfriends as we discussed life that we all share these feelings of being lost, overwhelmed and a little confused, and that’s OK! We’re not sure what the next steps look like but allowing ourselves to share our tough moments and questions somehow makes it seem easier and more manageable.

I loved this quote from the author: “What kind of a friend do you long for? What kind of a friend do you want to be? Will you be a friend who accepts people as they are, encourages them, holds them accountable, affirms their good qualities, serves them unabashedly, and prays for them faithfully? Will you share in their celebration and sorrow, birth and death, tears and laughter? Will you put aside worldly standards and accept them unconditionally? Will you allow yourself to enjoy them-quirks, failures and all? Our love and devotion to each other is the same love and devotion that Christ has for us. Because God freely gives His love to us, we can share it with others.” Now that is cool.

Tonight on Kid Nation, one of the little contestants said this: “It’s fine to be an adult but I think you need to hang on to that little spark of ‘kidness'”

Being with my girlfriends gives me that spark, a goofiness that I sometimes hide while trying to be a grown up at work. They also remind me of the woman I want to be and am slowly, hopefully, growing into.

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Amy
Amy

Les, I'm just wondering why you got dropped off the bed... :) I'm pretty sure at least Katie would be interested!

Amy Vogt
Amy Vogt

Les, I'm just wondering why you got dropped off the bed... :) I'm pretty sure at least Katie would be interested!

Katie
Katie

1- I felt sorta famous for making the highlight list.2- I am most sad about missing the fart.3- I must read this book when I come home at Christmas.4- Why were you all wearing your shorts?5- I suck at "playing grown-up."6- I love how you write.7- I should vary up my sentence structures on this list.8- You are so articulate and insightful and make me want to be deeper:) 9- I love that your mom quoted Dave Matthews.10- I miss you.

*corinne
*corinne

definitely can identify. love how you word it all.

Anna Jordan
Anna Jordan

Thank you so much for your thoughts and reflections. I'm definitely putting that book on my 'must read' list.

Ann Sebek
Ann Sebek

I agree it's "kinda tough gettin' older" as well, so we all go through stages of wonder. But, as Dave Matthews says, "I'll lean on you and you lean on me and we'll be okay." Dad and I are so happy you have such nice friends to share your life with. I loved reading your highlights.Mom