My friend Paul Angone is releasing a fantastic new book next week called 101 Secrets for Your 20s—and I can’t recommend it enough! In fact, I wish 101 Secrets for Your 20s existed when I graduated from college.
In less than 10 years time I graduated college, landed my first job, got married, struggled with my first job, traveled for three months, moved to a new city, frantically looked for work, finally found a sales position, quit the sales job after a month and became unemployed again, started a love/hate relationship with my third job in public relations, quit that job after a year and started my fourth job (at 3fold), worked my butt off and supported Jonathan through law school, struggled with understanding my biological clock, got pregnant, bought a house, quit my job to pursue motherhood and writing, and then watched Jonathan get diagnosed with cancer. All before 30!
Like so many others, my 20s were a decade of change—and with that came joy, questioning, some disappointments, and a LOT of soul searching. At the time I didn’t realize these feelings are very common.
A few years ago Paul began chasing his writing dreams amidst working full time, getting married and welcoming two little girls. His journey, like mine, was full of peaks and valleys—which is why his book’s release is so fun to witness. Paul’s wise (and funny!) words will speak to many women and men who feel confused during the post college years. In the book he writes,
“If at some point between 22 – 27 you feel like you’re six years old again, lost and alone at the San Diego Zoo, frantically searching for a familiar face – hold tight, you’re experiencing a bit of a Quarter Life Crisis. Stay put. Pray a lot. And in no time someone will call your name across the loud speaker to tell you where you can be found.”
What a relief, right?
A few more of my favorite lessons from 101 Secrets for your 20’s:
Lesson #7: Feel no shame in seeking help from a counselor or therapist. We all have rotting junk we try to wrap and hide under the Christmas tree. Get rid of it.
Lesson #11: Lousy jobs are the Twentysomething rite of passage.
Lesson #54: In the working world, very rarely is someone waiting there to teach you how to do your job. They’re expecting you to teach yourself.
Lesson #70 Making and keeping friends in your 20s takes intentionality.
Lesson #85: Never looking at your budget and never making a budget is the exact same thing.
Lesson #96: Watch out that social media doesn’t become death by validation.
Whether you’re in the midst of your 20s, or know someone who is, I hope you’ll pre-order Paul’s book TODAY. And if you need just a little more convincing (but really, you don’t) hop over to Paul’s website. He’s the creator of AllGroanUp.com – a place for those asking “What now?” His article “21 Secrets for your 20s,” on which this book is based, has been read by nearly a million people in 190 countries.